Every school has one. And some come in packs. Growing up I have learned there are different types of bullies but ALL serve the same purpose. “Preps” Attention Addicts. They dress to dazzle. If you have seen the 1985 film , “The Breakfast Club” The Prep is also referred to as,
They are the attention addicts. And do whatever necessary to fit in or gain popularity. Even if it means snitching on a friend to save their own reputation. The Prep dates the captain of the football team or go to the next guy in line who wins the reputation contest. The Prep whispers and laughs at those who are not part of their group of gossip. But when one is alone and away from their gossip group, they tend to be nice to a computer wiz to talk them into completing their homework for them. Typically, they are nice when they want something. Then you have,
Who you might find stuffing a Freshman or computer wiz in their lockers at the end of the day. And chances are that it is the same computer wiz who completed the prep’s homework – the jock’s girlfriend. How does a bully become who they are? Is it because of the pressure they get from home..? Or does it go deeper than that, as to learning how to accept themselves..? Whatever the case may be, they are lacking discipline or receiving too much at home. There should be boundaries when being a parent but we also must remember that each generation is different. Today’s society has more advanced technology and schools are not quite the same anymore. More children are bringing firearms to school for protection or for – in their minds, revenge. It is important to talk to our children. Set some guidelines but also and the most important is to “listen.”
One of the worst things a guardian can do is ignore. “Oh, they’re just kids. They’ll learn as they get older.” No! They Won’t! And some learn the hard way only because the parents did not have an open mind and to listen to hear what their child has to say or what changes or experiences they are going through. Whether it is about something at school or just facts of life in general. And “praise” your kids. Instead of yelling or grounding them due to getting a ‘C’ on their report card. “ASK” about the grade before you act. Either they lack concentration at school due to bullying or they may have a hard time learning that certain subject. Either way, there is lack of something, somewhere.
I remember while growing up, I was bullied ever day. Some days were good and none said a word to me, which is how I liked it. But I had lack of concentration due to bullying. And troubles at home. In school, K through Senior year in high school, I’ve had things thrown at me, chairs being pulled from underneath me before I sat down. People calling me names or using my last name to create insults. I was bullied by the best. I was the smart type but in their eyes did not dress and pass up for a Nerd. I was the one to help the Nerds back out of their lockers and didn’t play sports so I didn’t pass up for a jock. And I did not have a criminal record so I definitely did not pass to be an outcast or aka criminal.
Preps saw my artistic abilities and writing skills and tried to get me to do their homework. I refused so rumors were spread about me. I ignored the ignorance and continued my learning. I won’t say it didn’t bother me, because it did. Although I got use to it, kids today don’t. And what is worse is kids today are taking their lives due to bullying at school! :o I must repeat, “Taking-Their-Lives!” Is that not a warning sign or flag of some kind stating this has gone on far too long!?
I was creative and had competitive skills. I didn’t dress to ‘fit in’ and I was there to earn grades, not to earn a reputation. I didn’t have a loss of identity like others in school. I knew who I was and exactly what I wanted to do with my life. I ignored those who didn’t matter and were friends with the Geeks, Nerds, Goths and practically anyone decent. I did not discriminate.
The next in line are, “The Criminals”
Sometimes they are loners or huddle in a small groups. The Preps saw them as outcasts but once in a while you may see them hang out with the jocks. The Outcasts, or criminals, are not at school for grades but rather because they are on probation. They lay low from the cops by attending school. None is safe from these guys. They will bully anyone. Including the Special Ed students, those in wheelchairs or have a medical condition. I was a Special Ed student. I had a hard time learning Math but for some reason instead of trying to teach me something new, they kept teaching me the basics. – Which is why I had issues learning Math to begin with. Sadly, my High school has not changed and bullies stay the same. Like this student in the article below. Kudos for her bravery and I support her 100% on this matter and what she is trying to accomplish.
This hits home for me. Not just because it was the same high school I attended or because I was a victim of bullying but another reason is both of my parents had Cerebral Palsy.
Some bullies grow up and adult life changes their perception. But some remain bullies until their golden years. Sometimes experiences can change a person for the good or the worse. It does not matter if you are fifteen or fifty, a bully is as a bully does. And size does not matter when it comes to a fight. Here’s a little story for you.
Once there was a six year old kindergartner. She was bullied by a third grader for most of the year. Until one day the six year old girl got tired of the boy who pulled her hair, called her names and did anything to be annoying. She always walked away. Until, this day. Just when the boy thought she was going to walk away, she quickly turned around with her fist and ..persuaded him not to do it again. The boy did bully many kids on the playground but she was his favorite to bully. The rumor had spread all the way until the girl entered high school, that he was not only defeated by a kindergartner but- by a girl.
The teachers whom saw the boy’s actions of bullying watched and did nothing. Not even so much as a warning. Although after she had broke his nose, they punished her. The little girl’s brother, although proud, he explained to her the dangers of hitting someone and how easily it can be fatal. This was the type of girl who wouldn’t so much as kill a fly. But after seeing all the blood and learning how easy you can kill someone with a single punch… – I got scared and never lifted my hand again to anyone, regardless how badly I was bullied.
Violence is not the answer, (even though his nose has not been quite the same since) children today are taught not to fight but yet no teacher or any adult figure will step in and approach the RRR (Recognize, React, Repeat) So, what is the child suppose to do? Each school and every school should create an awareness about bullying. Some teachers and parents take on the subject too lightly and don’t speak to their kids about bullying because they ‘believe’ their child does not do that. Bullies are taught, not born. Parents need to set an example and remember that their children are mockingbirds and whatever you say or do around your children, they will be the result of your actions.
Thank you for taking the time reading, “BAB Battle Against Bullying” – Siranna Bast 2014
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